Domestic Violence

“I’m constantly afraid of him. When he gets home, I never know what to expect. He can start screaming because I put something in the wrong place or the children are noisy. He can call me stupid because I forgot to buy milk, and then throw a glass at me when he gets drunk. He can be so terribly aggressive… I don’t know what to do, this can’t go on. I need to talk, to get help.”
Julia, 33 years old, 2 children

Detecting interpersonal violence

Domestic violence refers to any violent act committed in a family context.
It can take on multiple forms:

• physical: shoving, punches, injuries and burns, etc.
• psychological: denigration, silences, sulking, threats, criticism, etc.
• verbal: yelling, derision, abuse, etc.
• economical: control and restriction of expenses, etc.
• sexual: assaults, mockery, etc.

Analyses performed in 2012 by Santé publique du Québec, comparing data from 2011, showed that:

• in a great majority, women are the victims of this type of violence
• past violence leads to a significant increase in the acts committed
• the victimization rate has been mainly on the rise for women aged between 25 and 29
• the rate of female victims has remained stable, while that of male victims is increasing

Do something for yourself

First, it is important to break the wall of silence, to talk about one’s situation. Tel-Aide offers a listening ear, 24 hours, 7 days a week, in complete anonymity and confidentiality.

The next step is to seek help, without delay, especially if you feel you are in danger. Do not hesitate to call 9-1-1.

Victim of domesticconjugal violence? Violent spouse?
Witness of conjugal domestic violence?

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