Abuse and intimidation

“Who would have thought that a son could behave like this with his mother? He’s constantly aggressive and hypercritical; he calls me stupid, says he can’t wait for me to die so he’ll be free of me! He takes all my money; I don’t have a penny left for my personal needs. This can’t go on, I’m scared of him. I need to talk about this…”
Annette, 75 years old, one child

Identifying the mistreatment of others

Abuse and bullying refer to various types of maltreatment deliberately inflicted upon another person in order to dominate, oppress and control that person.

This unacceptable behaviour can be present in all contexts: at school, at work, within the family or a social network. In 2013, for example, “l’Institut de la statistique du Québec” published a study showing that more than one third of students in high schools said they were a victim of violence, whether at school, during travel between home and school, or on the Internet.

Repeated maltreatment takes on multiple forms:

  • verbal: comments and humiliating insults, mockery
  • psychological: emotional manipulation, slander, rumours, exclusion,
    deprivation of affection or attention
  • physical: assaults, harassment, shoving, punches.
  • sexual: assaults, harrassement or threats, molestation, rapes
  • financial: financial pressures, theft
  • material: theft or breaking of objects, withholding food, care
  • social abuse and ageism: discrimination based on age

Regain control on your life

When living under such circumstances, one must talk about it and break the isolation. Tel-Aide’s active-listening help line, available 24 hours 7 days a week, offers a listening ear. Anonymity and confidentiality are guaranteed.

Afterward, a person should seek help by calling one of the many specialized resources available in Montreal and the area. If a person feels in danger, he or she should dial 9-1-1.

Victim, responsible or witness of abuse or intimidation?

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